Most women desire a loving, rewarding relationship; however seldom know how to go about achieving it. Women are emotional creatures more often than not with the American dream of getting married and starting a family. Women want to be loved, respected, and appreciated as a priority of importance in their relationship. Some women feel like failures for lack of successfully achieving this goal. Many women are unaware of what it takes to gain everything they desire in a relationship, so they settle for a loveless relationship or marriage that compromises who they are. Well Ariel Kiley and Simone Kornfeld the authors of Smitten: The Way of the Brilliant Flirt have the key components for women to find love without compromising behavior all while leaving men completely and utterly smitten.
In an exclusive interview with h-connect Ariel Kiley and Simone Kornfeld talk flirting brilliantly, expressing your true nature, and how important it is for women to maintain their identity in a relationship.
Author B.L. Brown – Tell h-connect readers a little about Ariel Kiley and Simone Kornfeld. Where are you from? What’s your passion?
Ariel Kiley- I grew up in a farmhouse in Northern Vermont. But I’ve been in love with New York City since I came here on a field trip at 12. My passion is to collaborate with creative, unique, intelligent people on projects designed to expand consciousness and increase joy and wellbeing. I do this through designing and teaching yoga classes, workshops and teacher trainings, and also through collaborating with Simone on writing pieces and videos to educate the world about brilliant flirtation. I also love to be in nature. To find time for silence. And on the other end of the spectrum, to participate in wild late-night dance parties.
Simone Kornfeld- I grew up in Northern New Jersey and quickly knew the only place I wanted to be was New York City—as soon as possible. I applied to just one university, NYU, and thank god I got in because that’s where I met Ariel. I like to think of this as having been written in the stars. For the moment my passions and energy are centered around helping humanity (and myself) make an emotional, spiritual and psychological shift to a higher state of awareness and consciousness. I do this through my work as a psychotherapist and through our teachings in Smitten. The world right now is complicated and filled with deep injustices. I feel it is my responsibility and privilege to do what I can to make even a few of the wrongs right.
Author B.L. Brown-In one word describe yourself?
Ariel Kiley- Tenacious
Simone Kornfeld- Radiant
Author B.L. Brown – What inspired the birth of Smitten: The Way of the Brilliant Flirt (book)?
Ariel Kiley- Smitten was inspired by a conversation Simone and I were having on the beach one 4th of July about the unique things we do that make men suddenly fall for us. When we realized it wall all about being real, being authentic, we knew we HAD to write the book and share this insight with other women.
Author B.L. Brown –How did you come up with the title?
Simone Kornfeld- The word Smitten came from a moment of divine inspiration by Ariel! We agreed on it and never looked back. Although the subtitle was originally A Flirtatious Philosophy on Blissful Existence. Our agent nixed that.
Author B.L. Brown –How much of the book is based on real life experiences?
Ariel Kiley- All of it, with some whimsical elaboration here and there.
Author B.L. Brown – The bio to Smitten: The Way of the Brilliant Flirt, states –“an empowering guide to flirtation for every woman who wants to have fun, express her opinions and leave men completely and utterly smitten”. How can a woman flirt without being overly aggressive?
Simone Kornfeld- When you flirt brilliantly, you express your true nature and authentic self. If this comes off aggressive to some, so be it. As long as you are being you, you don’t need to worry about modulating or toning yourself down to meet others expectations. You’ll attract the man who is titillated by your more “aggressive” side.
Author B.L. Brown- What first date tips can you give women?
Ariel Kiley- Wear an outfit that makes you feel happy, uniquely yourself and excited to walk out the door. Show up with no expectations, you don’t need the guy to “complete you”, you are already complete! Just focus your attention on the human before you and ask questions that bring him out of himself. And also choose to be honest and open in your communication. But if he makes you feel judged or unsafe when you’re being yourself, get out of there.
Author B.L. Brown –How important is it for women to maintain their identity in a relationship?
Simone Kornfeld- This is vital. Enmeshment creates a host of problems, and usually the woman is the one to lose confidence, inner security and the ability for independent thinking. They become dependent, needy, insecure and imbalanced. Not a good scenario. Think of a healthy relationship as “together, but separate.”
Author B.L. Brown –Why do you believe men cheat?
Ariel Kiley- Probably many of the same reasons women cheat – they’re unsatisfied in their relationship and want a thrill, they are looking for an excuse to terminate the relationship, they learned from their parents that behavior. I think men do have a particular biological urge to impregnate the masses, so that’s probably mixed up in there.
Author B.L. Brown- What advice can you give to women and young girls who are enduring difficult circumstances within their relationship such as behavior, cheating, being disrespectful, endless lies and more?
Ariel Kiley- Take a very deep look at what you are “gaining” from being involved with these guys. Instead of making yourself a victim, realize that you CHOSE to be with this person and begin to do deep self-realization work to find the roots of your attraction to such men. A therapist and yoga practice doesn’t hurt. Get in your body, get real, and get professional help to gain perspective.
Simone Kornfeld—Yes, and remember that your pain won’t last forever. Many people are scared to end bad relationships because they fear the pain of the breakup. This is temporary. But the pain of compromising yourself and enduring abusive treatment lasts a very long time.
Author B.L. Brown –What is your favorite love song of all times?
Ariel Kiley- “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley
Simone Kornfeld- “In Your Eyes” Peter Gabriel”.
Author B.L. Brown – Is there anything else you’d like to share? (about yourself, company, products, services, up and comings business ventures, etc.).
Ariel Kiley- Please participate in our blog “AskSmitten” on SmittenBook.com and join in the conversation about self-realization and brilliant flirtation. Get the book for yourself and all your friends. Heed our advice. It works, not to just make men smitten, but also to make yourself smitten with your own awesome life.
Simone Kornfeld- Well said!
Smitten: The Way of the Brilliant Flirt Bio-Finally, an empowering dating guide for every woman who wants to have fun, express her opinions, and keep it real. No cheap tricks, no behavior changes, no nonsense. In Smitten, Ariel Kiley and Simone Kornfeld show women how to let their unique selves shine so they can become blissfully enlightened man-magnets. With tips on how to perfect the look of a flirt, build confidence, and let your true self emerge, Smitten teaches that being exactly who you are will get you what you want—whether it’s a smile across the room, a first date, or long-term love. Soon enough, women everywhere will be turning heads and causing men to become completely, absolutely, entirely, downright smitten.
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